If you’ve read “The Truth About Men and Women: Part 1”, then you know that Men are all about:
- Beating Man, Nature, Machine, Society or Himself in competition
- Carrying their own weight so they’re not dead weight
- Meeting their responsibilities instead of farming them out to be a slave
But if you’re a woman, chances are you’re reading this and thinking: “Why all this macho nonsense? This is so toxic!”
Well, that’s because Women see the world differently.
And lucky for the Mind at War reader, there’s a guy who can tell you just HOW it is Women REALLY see the world.
The Story Behind the Story
If you’ve read “The Truth About Men and Women: Part 1”, then you know that a fellow named John Gray made it his life’s mission to understand just what it is that make men and women tick.
Through years of experience travelling the world, knowing many girls, and ending his first marriage in a messy divorce, John Gray uncovered the eternal truths of male/female motivation.
But what’s more, he put them all in his book, Men Are From Mars: Women Are From Venus.
“The Truth About Men and Women: Part 1” discussed the Man’s angle when it comes to motivation. Now, this article will reveal the Female’s perspective.
Read on below, because it’s worth its’ weight in gold!
“A woman’s sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships,” John Gray explains (Gray 18).
It’s about feeling anything…happy, sad, laughing crying. Good, bad, beautiful, ugly, you name it!
Women want to feel anything and everything as it comes, and they want reassurance that it’s okay to feel it all.
That’s a lot different from a Man.
The Rat In The Corner Cage
If a Man feels like a loser, he doesn’t like it, not one bit. He feels threatened, like a rat trapped in the corner of a cage.
So what do Men do? They takes action to take out the thing making them feel low on the totem pole.
Men take action to win, and that makes them feel fulfilled. They’re on top of the world, and no longer that rat trapped in the corner cage.
For them, it’s a different ball game.
Different Threat, Same Terror
Women want to feel all the feelings, and let them run their course uninhibited. That evens includes sad, depressed, loser feelings that men burn out of themselves like a pestilence-ridden crop field.
But Women like to feel these negative things, as well as the positive ones. They only feel threatened whenever they feel like it’s NOT okay to embrace the whole spectrum of emotions.
When women feel like they’ve got to shut off their flow of feelings off, or hide their feelings inside, they become broken. They feel the same suffocating threat that men do when they lose and fail.
They feel the terror of the rat trapped in the corner cage.
All The Card Are On The Table
Men only want to feel good feelings. They feel threatened when they feel bad ones.
Women want to feel all feelings. They feel threatened when they are NOT ALLOWED to feel them all…even bad ones.
That’s a big difference.
But it’s not the only one.
“I’d Like To Teach The World To Sing”
John Gray explains that women don’t just want to feel all the feelings. They want to share those feelings with the world.
To women, “Communication is of primary importance,” Gray explains.”To share their personal experience is more important than achieving their goals and success. Talking and relating to one another is a source of tremendous fulfillment” (Gray 18).
Because Women “are more concerned with living together in harmony, community, and loving cooperation” (Gray 18).
That’s a far cry from the dog-eat-dog world of men!
Knowing this fact is key to understanding why “Instead of being more goal oriented, women are relationship oriented; they are more concerned with expressing goodness, love, and caring” (Gray 19).
The End of The Beginning?
There you have it. The differences between Men and Women.
Would you like to learn more about just how these different motivations drive Male and Female needs…with a unique spin that only Mind at War can bring?
Then check out our next article, “The Primary Needs Of Men and Women: Part 1” available now!
If you’d like to learn more about John Gray’s PhD-level work on the differences in Men and Women, check out his website at www.marsvenus.com.
And if you’d like to learn more about how the truth about Men and Women affects a Third World war zone, then check out Mind at War Chief Editor Richard Barrett’s book, “All Men Follow the Strongman: The Forgotten History of the Iraq War.”
Gray, Dr. John. Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships. New York, NY: HarperCollins Publishers, 1992.